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Thoughts of 18/11/14
Theres a girl I met a few years ago in which I'm at mid terms with at the moment. When I met her she was around 13 or 14 and back then I saw potential and my predictions were true. The problem though is that the self esteem is too high meaning I have to change the way I talk to her which proves annoying. Recently she decided to create a new Facebook account so she could share unfiltered things without the family seeing. What happens next? Slutty photos. I'm done. I'm so fucking done. She also wants to create a short film and I'm offering my services here but is getting kept in the dark. Good luck making it. Good fucking luck.
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Thoughts of 14/10/14
Underwear. The item/s of clothing worn underneath our exterior clothing to prevent chafing, awkward boners, protruding nipples and to give the body a more slim look than what it really is. Everyone has different views as to whether showing underwear is natural or embarrassing. The obvious reasoning is self consciousness or believing it to be a form of nakedness. One thing that intrigues me is beach wear. Guys wear boardies and girls wear bikinis which shows more skin than underwear would, at least for the girls. It's one of those mental kinks in the head that says "this is right" and "this is wrong" despite both being near the same. That's about all I can think of on the subject and my observations are rather weak at the moment. Might ellaborate further some day.
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Thoughts of 29/9/14
Thought I'd take the time to talk about things I don't usually talk about. First thing is snapchat. For those who do not know, snapchat is an app for mobile devices that allow you to 'snap' what you're doing/seeing with a little caption before sending it to someone then that someone replies with what he/she is doing. That's what is was meant for before society twisted its function yet again. Now it's a way to show off and ignore the replies you get. It's like sending an email to 10 people saying "oh hey, I just did this" and when people reply thinking you're talking directly to them, it's just ignored.
Another analogy would be that it's a facebook status sent through inbox to everyone.
Again I'm not saying everyone does this but its come to the point where there are so many snaps flying in that I don't have time to reply and if i do it's usually met with dismissal or unrelated snaps back (essentially the process being repeated).
The next thing is music. Back in the days of high school the most favoured music was pop and hiphop. Both of these I don't favour which is why I kept my phone away from people because you're met with "wheres your 'music'?". Now-a-days it's good to have met people with a more variety of music. I still don't favour it but it's closer to my taste then it ever has been. The best thing about everyone, no matter what their music taste, is that we can sing popular classics (eg. Safety dance, pokemon theme song etc).
It's also interesting how music genre reflects the personality of the one listening. Metal leading to wild haircuts, indie rock giving stand out personality, pop showing the dull and mainstream. Theres so much more but I haven't looked into the matter properly yet.
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True feelings (2/9/14)
It's come to my attention that despite the level of friendships everyone has, when it comes to the absolute truth things get a bit out of hand. Say for example there are two people, one is attractive and the other is far far from it. The attractive one wont say the other is ugly and the ugly one wont say the other is attractive. One of the conscious points in life is self improvement and that cannot occur unless there is ample criticism. An asshole will continue to be an asshole unless someone tells the person. We're (mostly) afraid of the ramifications of being brutally honest. No ones perfect but when you're having a deep and meaningful, it helps to have nothing but the full truth come from both parties even if it lowers or raises self esteem.
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Subjugation and manipulation (19/8/14)
I'm in full experimental mode, what harm would it be if I told a girl what power she possesses? What is the outcome if I submit to these powers.
Did we subjugate women all these years ago because man saw how much power they could wield if kept unchecked?
When a being is physically inferior to another, that other will outsmart, manipulate or influence their foe. That's what women do. They influence and manipulate without even realising it. A woman wants a man so that she feels protected and safe. Notice the girl to guy ratio most times in public? When a guy puts his arm around her, when he holds her tight. Protection.
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Gender mind swap (19/8/14)
A phenomenon I've been noticing is something that blurs the line between being a man or a woman. A girl with a guys mind is gay or a slut and a guy with a girls mind is metrosexual or gay. At least culturally and in social interactions it seems to be that way. I've wondered if it really is that bad that core interests of people can affect those around them. It hasn't had a big impact on those around me yet but it's an intriguing avenue that might be something bigger in future.
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Loneliness (19/8/14)
I've touched base on our primitive side that we paint over in everyday society but I thought I would talk about the sinking feeling in the heart. I don't know how to explain the feeling but when I get caught doing something wrong, when a girl rejects me, when someone challenges/insults me, when I lose a friend, when someone has died and when I feel alone. I've debated as to how love is the creation of the conscious mind and managed to get some positive criticism about my claim. But it confuses me when I have this sinking feeling that I am without someone. Is it the mind wanting to have a partner which would lead to children? I don't mind being alone. I like being alone. I'm not ready for any of this, I have a life that needs focusing on right now. Yet I've met the closest thing to perfection and what do I do with it? Toss it out the 256th story window. It's coming to a point where signals and signs are becoming too believable. I misinterpret them or they give these signs off without even realising.
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Being shallow (13/6/14)
The term "shallow" which refers not about a low depth in a pool but in a standard of women. In the late 90's the term was used frequently to comment on how people go for a too higher standard of women without realising the impact it's causing on themselves and their future relationships. These days the term seems to be non-existant. A lost term in the vast library of slang. These days I've noticed an alarming trend that majority of the observed population is indeed shallow. Perhaps it's only around this age and will improve as we get older. In the event it does not, the world is going to be a rather worse place to live in.
Being
shallow appears to be the social norm and probably has been the last
decade. Anyone who sways from this notion is looked at repulsively.
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Women's attire (19/5/14)
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Rejection! (7/5/14)
I can't believe it when i say this but I haven't created a segment about this yet!!
My entire life I haven't bothered or felt the need to ask people out on dates. Or at least if i did try it turns into a friendly encounter with food involved. It's only now that I realise how blunt and obvious you have to be to get the point across. However when it gets to that stage it usually means they have little to no interest in you. Misinterpretation seems to go a long way as well. Through my drunken haste I decided to ask someone out of the blue to coffee or tell them that I like them. Now that I'm sober I find it to be a ripe opportunity to document the details and consequences of such actions. From the look of it, it appears that a lot of meet ups is required before taking the next step. It's like an evaluation before getting the job. Another thing is that depending on your physical appearances and attitude determines your window of opportunity.
I'm pretty stupid when it comes to hints and clues. Everyone wants a world where we all just say what's on our minds but that's just a reality that will only occur to less than 5% of the population. The best way to relate this to a real world scenario is say that a girl is in the shower with the shower door open and the bathroom door open giving you a clear view of her. Normally that's an invitation to join her (unless it's 2.5% of girls who forget to close both doors, 10% of the time she's confidant with herself and doesn't care or both doors are broken). Rather than joining her instead I would say "Oh right, heres your towel" then walk away. That's how bad I think I am.
Scenarios that's actually happened to me would be girls describing their dream guy only to have myself fit the whole criteria without me realising it or a girl saying she's never been asked out and me saying "You'll find someone someday". It seems to be the girls I don't want that I see the warning signs. Why life why!!!!
I'm pretty stupid when it comes to hints and clues. Everyone wants a world where we all just say what's on our minds but that's just a reality that will only occur to less than 5% of the population. The best way to relate this to a real world scenario is say that a girl is in the shower with the shower door open and the bathroom door open giving you a clear view of her. Normally that's an invitation to join her (unless it's 2.5% of girls who forget to close both doors, 10% of the time she's confidant with herself and doesn't care or both doors are broken). Rather than joining her instead I would say "Oh right, heres your towel" then walk away. That's how bad I think I am.
Scenarios that's actually happened to me would be girls describing their dream guy only to have myself fit the whole criteria without me realising it or a girl saying she's never been asked out and me saying "You'll find someone someday". It seems to be the girls I don't want that I see the warning signs. Why life why!!!!
All in all rejection is a natural process in life. One will fall many times over before picking themselves back up again. There are prodigies who look as if they can get any girl they want but even they too get rejected at some point. The saying 'their are plenty of fish in the sea' is a rather good analogy. It takes the right bait, time and place in order to real in a catch.
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Thoughts of 24/4/14
Thought I'd take the time to talk about things I don't usually talk about. First thing is snapchat. For those who do not know, snapchat is an app for mobile devices that allow you to 'snap' what you're doing/seeing with a little caption before sending it to someone then that someone replies with what he/she is doing. That's what is was meant for before society twisted its function yet again. Now it's a way to show off and ignore the replies you get. It's like sending an email to 10 people saying "oh hey, I just did this" and when people reply thinking you're talking directly to them, it's just ignored.
Another analogy would be that it's a facebook status sent through inbox to everyone.
Again I'm not saying everyone does this but its come to the point where there are so many snaps flying in that I don't have time to reply and if i do it's usually met with dismissal or unrelated snaps back (essentially the process being repeated).
The next thing is music. Back in the days of high school the most favoured music was pop and hiphop. Both of these I don't favour which is why I kept my phone away from people because you're met with "wheres your 'music'?". Now-a-days it's good to have met people with a more variety of music. I still don't favour it but it's closer to my taste then it ever has been. The best thing about everyone, no matter what their music taste, is that we can sing popular classics (eg. Safety dance, pokemon theme song etc).
It's also interesting how music genre reflects the personality of the one listening. Metal leading to wild haircuts, indie rock giving stand out personality, pop showing the dull and mainstream. Theres so much more but I haven't looked into the matter properly yet.
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How to talk to people
1. Understand their beliefs
2. Understand their humour
3. When they're unresponsive, STOP!
4. You know someones disinterested when they give short answers and have a bland face.
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People. 29/12/13
So lately i've noticed that a health craze has swept in. I'm all for it... But when i get criticised for the choices I make constantly... I'm beginning to get a bit pissed off. On a side note I thought I'd express my rant on facebook however the rule to facebook is that you dumb it down and make it funny. You also need to target something. Now stupid old me targeted gym junkies and a large amount of my facebook friends are exactly that. Then the vegans have a go at you and it turns to shit so... Yeah. Lesson learnt, watch out for double meanings and carefully clarify better. Appeasing people is really annoying especially when you have to dumb down your sentencing.
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I don't feel too right in the head for the time being. Slipping into negativity but maybe it's because I'm rather tired right now however I guess I should write my thoughts down anyway.
So after my haircut, it's definitely brought attention to some other things. In previous posts I talk about exercise and changing myself for the better. That doesn't really work out when you're offered an assortment of food that's apparently "bad" for you. My gym junkie friends go on about how fucking EVERYTHING is bad for you, even fucking high doses of fruit! It has this and that in it. And what do they eat? Rabbit food with a side of tuna.
Call me spoilt but I've experienced the most exquisite tastes of food in my lifetime and to revert to something so basic is very unsettling. It doesn't help that I can't do much physical activity over here either. So now my self esteem is the lowest its ever been in my entire life. That's why I can't bring myself to even think about fraternizing, just head down and ignore it.
As much as I try to remain positive I find that the negativity isn't coming from outside sources but emanating from within my own thought process. Will need to think on it.
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'The cure to loneliness and the wrong person' - 21/12/13
Onto yet another topic revolving around relationships, a phenomenon I've noticed this year which oddly enough has been happening for many years is that a girl or guy is under pressure to get with someone or have a sense of not wanting to be alone. Lets say that the subjects don't succumb to mental degradation (generalized as desperation), so the subjects retain their standards and wants in their perfect vision of their potential partner. From what I've analyzed it appears that if the subject doesn't succumb to desperation they fall under a particular sub category.
Total desperation is when the subjects standards drop as time goes on without a partner. This other type of desperation is more so to do with the alteration of the subjects wants and needs in their partner. Say for example a girl wants a black haired, white, smart, obviously hot, honest and friendly guy. As time goes on and with the right amount of social pressure the girl will begin to take things at face value meaning if the guy suits the appearance then the personality aspects they want begins to disappear to the point where even if the guy is stupid, an asshole and dishonest the girl will still go for him for being black haired, white and hot.
I believe that this may open up a new zone between friends with benefits and relationship, it just doesn't have a name other than "the wrong person but the right feeling". This is some what similar to the shortcut tactic assholes tend to take. (Shortcut technique being going for a relationship purely for the sexual attention as it's easier than securing a beneficial friendship) so the two phenomenons probably intertwine.
In some cases perhaps it works out best for the pair in the long run. But I'm not going to go "ohh so sorry, we totally didn't see that coming and there wasn't a way to get out of it earlier" if things turn shit.
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Ramblings 2-/11/13
it FEELS like peer pressure and example is causing duress. Need. To. Stay. Sane!!!
Cannot give in to desperation. Must not give into it arrrghhhhh >.<
Happy. Happy. Happy. Happy. Happy.
Space space space.
Plan. Need to plan.
just happy.
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False Love
FUCK THAT. Will divulge later.
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The "no go scenario"
Essentially what this scenario is, is that there is a female (Wow a female, that seems to be the big thing in this blog isn't it?). The female has a rare type of personality that manages to suppress all sexual desire and allow herself to remain neutral or asexual to the action but still open to the context. After countlessly rejecting, or at times being rejected, they still become interested in a VERY high league of men, the men of the lower league would refer to her pants to be a "no go zone". Sure we all want to go for the high leagues but we understand that the high leagues generally (meaning not all) have a low intelligence or some personality flaw.
Another theory tossed about is that they are waiting for "the one". This 'one' does exist for everyone but people can be fooled by the one point one or one point two etc.
How I put it is that when in a relationship, depending on how long it has lasted determines whether they were the 'one' or the 'one point one'
one point ninety-nine being a short relationship barely exceeding a month and one point one going on for some ridiculously high number of years.
Back to the original topic, these girls are extremely hesitant with guys and has a strict selection process.
Does this make them better than regular people? no. They're the same status as anyone else, just that most guys who know the person would cut their losses and try someone else or become extremely persistent to annoying levels or 3% of the time, successful levels. Mainly I'm just expressing another deep personality trait I've noticed in people. If anything this kind of girl has more downsides than upsides in terms of compatibility and social interaction.
Related blog post here
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3/11/13
Are we doomed to be dependant?
After a conversation with one of my friends it has become apparent that females seem to always have the need to travel with a friend, even through suburbia. It is drilled into their brains that they cannot do anything alone and require someone to be with them whenever they go out. This gives me the impression that 'they' are teaching women to be dependant meaning when they get a boyfriend that they would be submissive towards him. In the world I live in I believe in gender equality meaning women can do whatever they want that men can do and the same vice versa. That means I'm not going to wait until the long line of women leave the bus before I get off. I don't believe in "ladies first" unless it's to crack a joke or to get them to do something I don't want to do first (in a joking form). I believe in "whoever the fuck is closest to the door, GTFO SO WE CAN LEAVE QUICKER". But the main thing about this is that if we are to be gender equal we need to have our independence. However one thing stopping us is people living in the past, people teaching the next generation old tricks, our genetics and our physique.
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Painful thoughts of 14/10/13
Gone before the next kiss.
Express trip into the abyss.
Remembrance for who he once was then.
Forever lost in the land of lost men.
An ode made by my friend to describe himself when he forgets to give out his number after a one night stand. to me it's a different meaning, one more painful.
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Thoughts of 13/10/13
On my walk I had a big think about things. About people, class, humanity and influences. I'm a guy who hasn't been physically abused besides as a means of disciplinary action, neither have I been verbally abused to breaking point. Hearing these things affecting most of my friends is very troublesome. However outside of school no one usually gets verbally abused in this manner anymore. There is one thing that carries over though, I read something about differing personality traits. The Alpha male is something most people know about, they are the 'dominant' type who don't have to try to get whoever they want. Two alphas in proximity causes tension. In my experience, the Alpha males are the most deluded and animalistic. Betas are the introverted types that have little to no luck and cling to Alphas. They I find to be the ones who complain too much and always attempting to seem like they are Alpha. Gamma males are people that use manipulation in their favour to get what they want and Sigma males are males off the radar. I am an Omega male, one who sits on the fence and watches society tear itself apart whilst eating popcorn with little care of the events unfolding before them.
How do I put this simply?
An Alpha male will go down a path of his choosing and let nothing stop him
A Beta male will blindly follow the Alpha male down the same path
An Omega male will deviate from path to path
A Gamma male will convince the Alpha and those who follow to a path of his choosing
A Sigma male wont choose a path but stay still
I'm in a situation where it's Omega vs Alpha. Beta vs Alpha usually leads to failure. Omega vs Alpha is a path that is rather painful. You have a girl in your sights but so do many other Alphas. The Alpha will naturally go in first however the Omega will cling to his humanity and retain his moral and ethics. This comes at a price though as you have to watch the Alphas get what they want even if it's someone of your choosing. You need to look past that and think of the big picture. You are a person. A HUMAN with conscious thought and cognitive processes. An Alpha is an ANIMAL. Listening only to his sub conscious thoughts. Women are in between. Usually they think with clarity and grace but if you deprive them of particular stimuli they slowly loose their grasp and head into desperation. No matter what a girl says or how she says it, inside she may have a growing lust to do something.
They say humanity has evolved to be equals however we still have strands in our genetics that date back to the era of cavemen. Why do teenagers stay up late? because the teenagers of the tribes would be the ones who look after it during night hours. Why do women become obedient and docile when approached by an Alpha male? Because women only achieved equality FIFTY YEARS AGO. We may live in an evolved society but our genetics don't change after a signature on a doctrine. Which brings me to society itself. We're sorted into 3 classes; Upper, Middle and Lower society. The Lower society succumb to their animalistic desires faster than those in the above classes. Me as the middle is taught by the upper and influenced by the lower. Its a struggle to retain who you are. Alcohol only makes it worse, it slowly drowns out the line between right and wrong. I ALWAYS will try to retain my morals and ethics. To not take advantage of a situation if possible. However given certain stimuli... desperation can kick in and I get ashamed at the aftermath. So what do I do? I hate walking into places blind. I like to plan what to do but planning has its limits. I have something not many people in my class can do, switch off my brain to be immersed. That's a bad thing when it comes to decision making and my brain is off. Bad bad things. So my mojo has depleted but long story short: Societys shit.
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Open thought
A guy sees an attractive girl he's never
met before.
They either want to
A. Sex
B. Talk
C. Get to know
D. Figure out what she's looking at
E. Who her friend is
If it's A then the desire to go for her
intensifies before he gets this feeling which is mistaken for love when really
its just lust wanting to take control and screw the crap out of her until he
gets bored and moves on
If it's B then the guy may attempt to get
to know her then subsequently not call again or will stick around for a bit
before leaving.
C is for the nervous guys that want a
relationship but has no idea what a relationship is
D and E means that the thing she's looking
at must be some sort of epic explosion or the best friend looks way more
attractive.
If the guy knows the girl from some where
and she isnt a stranger as stated above then this is when things get a bit
complicated
The guy will either lay low so that he isnt
judged, attempt to talk to the girl and try and not be friend zoned or simply
just be himself and let the girl come to him if he is that appealing.
When a guy reaaaallyyyy likes a girl, he
will be a nice guy. as much as girls love assholes and bad boys if a guy is
being a nice guy... he really likes you.... however there is a chance that he
is incredibly clingly which is the problem.
Some people say friends make good
relationships. Sure they do if you don't like to physically make contact with
each other and talk about other things that doesnt concern the relationship.
Eventually things get boring.
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What makes a girl tick?
During high school there are many different types of people with differing interests and objectives. However these common interests is a generalization of the general cluster of suburbs everyone comes from. Once I started meeting people from far off lands that's when things were starting to change. On the cruise it was only slight however now that I've become comfortable with the people around me at tafe I've come to the unwelcome realization that everyone is so different that I can't adjust properly. This causes a bad situation being that I can't determine the boundaries and lines that are present. To an asshole these boundaries are mere obstacles that are to jump over. But from my perspective I don't want to offend but it's bloody hard when there are different kinds of secrecy being thrown around
(Will have more later)
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How to annoy people (particularly me) on Facebook!
- Post relationship Tumblr pictures every 1 - 30 minutes.
- Constantly posting desperate single status'
- Constantly posting on the significant others wall about how much they love each other (fucking inbox it.)
- Saying My >insert possession/experience< over yours. (What you have there looks like total shit.)
- Re posting something that is clearly fake
- Chain mail.
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Open Rant 28/7/13:
One thing that really annoys me is that things are getting more separated than they are becoming unified. We had pep talks about some bullshit about being two groups. We worked as one and it's shown that we have conflicting viewpoints but can move on for the bettering of the team. Now? They're ENCOURAGING segregation. We're splitting off again and I'm not liking how this will look in the long term. I wish to work with everyone again, the way we work is something I've never experienced and could never think be replicated with other people. This is one thing I do not have a contingency plan for and it's making me rather uneasy. I'm probably over hyping the situation thanks to over thinking, hopefully things get better. Hopefully.
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Moods to Love:
It's amazing how the mood can change so easily.
I went from calm to workaholic to panic to intrigued then disappointment but at the same time relief. Now i feel rather pissed off. I listen to music that suits the mood and it changed a lot. All from words, WORDS MAN WORDS. I always remember the quote of expecting very little to savour the disappointment but I always expect the best because it's the positive thing to do but you get shut down so easily. Before I enter anyone's door or before I go out, I plan every emotional angle. How to get around particular situations and how to react to people. Every time though, there is something that occurs that completely puts my views and plans out of whack.
Being the nice guy doesn't help too much either, because you are the nice guy you don't expect to get anywhere mainly because you don't want to. I have little interest in relationships at this current time, I need to get my life in order and get my physical health at par (lately I've been splurging too much). Who would want to date me in the first fucking place anyway!? So I be the nice guy, but being the nice guy has it's down times too. You're always expected to be the one who pats the shoulder but never the one who has the shoulder patted. You're expected to know exactly what to say and to not cross any lines or boundaries other people seem to be able to cross with ease yet your lines and boundaries are always being crossed. You get mocked for not being the ladies man. What's 0 x 500? THE AMOUNT OF FUCKS I GIVE. You are the one that tucks them in at night whilst the guy who should have is out sticking his tongue down other peoples throats. You get the wet shoulder after countlessly saying "He is not right for you" but all you get in return is either "Just cause you like me" or "But I 'love' him". You fucking just met the guy and you say it was "Love at first sight". LOVE DOESN'T WORK LIKE THAT.
You don't see Love, you don't have Love inside you. You have the means of CREATING the love inside you. The spark ignites a fire inside you called Love. This fire is shared between you and your partner. Sex is different, sex isn't a 'means of expressing love', not in this day and age. Love is the emotional bond between two people, you don't need to have sex to prove it. Sure it's the perks that come with it sure I'm not saying couples shouldn't have sex but don't call it making love... those days are long gone when it did. You made Love when you agreed to be with her, to protect her, to always be there. How is that a concept to hard to grasp. Then theres people who say "You'll never understand it", Understand what!? You explain to me how you personally understand it. "But you can't express it in words", last I checked, if something can't be explained in words then it's either stupidity or whatever it is you're willing to express doesn't exist. When a anyone says "I don't see a connection"... yeah that usually means that there is someone else in the picture... and it isn't a connection. It's a bond, yes their's a difference! Do you just find that you found another girl a lot prettier? easier to fuck? Do go on about how you just trashed someone's feelings because you lead her on then made her second choice. Their's no fucking exits, once you're committed you're committed . If you feel like you genuinely find someone else, genuinely like, she's more of a match to you I guess so but aaarrgghhhh why is relationships so iccckkyyyyy. Maybe just be patient and not go for the first girl you having feelings for, think if it's best for you or something I don't fucking know anymore. Get to know the girl a lot better or something if it's her personality I don't know. I give up. My spark to explain has been diminished for the time being.
Ok the above is what happens when I try to mix logic with the concept of love in the state of mind I'm in. When I relax again I will explain more clearly the points I wished to express
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Love
Throughout the ages people believe the connection between a couple is called love. In this day and age, illusion clouds the minds of people giving the false perception of it.
Love was always believed to always be inside someone or it is a chemical reaction in the body. I can tell you that it isn't inside people, the chemical reaction is the sub conscious telling you to have babies.
Love is not there. Love is created. Love isn't in the mind to begin with, you were not born with it, you were born with the means of creating it. To create love, it's pretty obvious how. But True Love is different. People walk into a relationship with the belief of having created Love when it could be the deadly opposite which is Lust. Lust is the sexual desire for someone and many males take advantage of it. Without dipping into a rant True Love is the adamant feeling that both parties will never leave and will always be there. How do you tell you have Love or True Love? Most parents would ban their children from having relationships on the premise that "They are young, they don't know what Love is and they will be hurt". For a long time I believed that to be rather stupid however these days I can finally understand why. In the teenager years, hormones go on the frits and teenagers being new comers to the whole relationship thing don't know a whole lot about long term consequences or life time commitments, this being mainly directed to the male gender. For some unknown reason despite our best efforts of gender equality it has always been the "thing" that males make the first move therefore females are at the receiving end and sometimes it's unwanted attention. A firm belief is that a relationship leads to the super mega happy fun time and once done the male moves on without any thought as to the repercussions.
I always thought that it's best if relationships are made after school, when all the stress is over. You're more mature, have a better perception of the future and those phases are over and done with.
Don't get me wrong there have been numerous successful relationships from high school but this is just coming from a viewpoint of those eager to get into the game. It's risky in the younger years is all I'm implying.
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The following refers to the redirect from Rant 21
There are special circumstances where a relationship is built out of true love. However sexual desire is at a low point for them so they resort to other people to fill their desires. I knew a couple that loved each other so much that they would do those cute relationship things but would have sex with other people and be totally ok with it with each other. Sure they still have sex with each other but they know that they love each other so much that it doesn't matter. You don't need to have sex to achieve love.
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